words frm warhol

postcard above is from the andy warhol exhibition i attended recently in singapore… resonated with me very much so i’m sharing it with you… =)

anyway the past month’s been really crazy (emotionally) for me… dust hasn’t really settled… loads of thoughts and self-reflection in process… i just chanced upon this website that i thought (once again) it would be good to share with the readers of my blog…

in every relationship, support forms a very important part of the interaction between you and your partner… however everyone can say that they ‘support’ the other party.. but in truth how many would know wat is support? i saw this site (http://www.supportiverelationship.info) on my friend’s blog which i found really insightful…

“A supportive relationship is one that does not judge or criticize when your partner does something different than you. He/she is their own person – an adult – who gets to be themselves whether you agree with it or not. And you get to be your own person – an adult – who gets to be who you are whether he/she agrees with it or not. He likes beer, you like wine. He likes computers, you like television. He likes to stay at home, you like to travel. He likes to go to happy hour for an hour after work, you like to go directly home. None of these things are deal breakers. Let him be him, and he should let you be you. After all, isn’t it all about being supportive and both of you being happy?”

makes it sound pretty easy isn’t it… i think it might not be as simple as it looks… hrmmm let me know what you think..

then i read one of my schoolmate’s blog… who just got married not too long ago… of course the question everyone’s asking her is ‘how do you know whether it will work out’… a question that i’ve been grappling with at the moment seeing how many of my friends have started hopping onto the bandwagon…

“Some may see marriage as a fanciful idea, as means to be independant, get rich, get a house or escape from poverty, but I like to think marriage as a life long mutual decision between two person, to not just love and take responsibility for the well being and happiness of each other in the best and worst situations (aside from infidelity and physical abuse from either party), but also an mutual agreement to put in EFFORT to make the best out of the marriage and if all that is not scary enough I don’t know what is.”

its a really scary thought for sure… marriage truly isn’t about that one day where you dress up really pretty and all smiles… but its about the rest of your life together with the other person whom you have decided to be together with… it is really impossible to tell if you will still be together one year down the road, three, five or even twenty… i believe that in all marriages, the couple goes through a lot together and perhaps those that we deem as ‘successful’ have either managed to figure out a compromise with each other… or end up closing one eye to the other’s behavior and wat nots…

for me… a relationship should have trust for each other, commitment to the other and to making things work, support in whatever we want to do (and that sometimes might include saying brutal truths), understanding that sometimes we all screw up, love and passion… i’m still working on this ‘list’ at the moment but these are probably the standard set that we should get when we’re in a relationship (not only romantic)…

wahahah having not blogged in a while… suddenly i get into such a serious and semi-philosophical mood… gosh… no thanks to the cruise that i went on last weekend with my family…